Let’s face it: negativity is not just a thief. It creeps in when we least expect it, hijacking our thoughts and slowing down our productivity. It also stays around us for much longer than it should. Ever been waiting for a response from a colleague and turned it into a small-scale personal crisis? We’ve all been there, overthinking every nuance of a short reply or a delayed message. It’s time to cut that nonsense out and train ourselves to think positively, focusing instead on Getting Stuff Done (GSD) every single day. Nothing will push you forward more assertively than everyday wins.
Why We Dwell on the Negative Negativity has a way of sticking around without logical reason. It sticks to us, while positive moments often disappear quickly. A harsh critique can echo in our minds long after the praise fades. This pattern isn’t just annoying; it’s toxic. It drains our energy and keeps us stuck in a cycle of self-doubt and frustration. Negative events have a greater impact on us than positive events. According to social psychology research, people are more stressed out by the loss of $50 than they are made happy by finding $50. This is also known as the positive-negative asymmetry which is well explained in the beautiful book “The Power of Bad” by John Tierney. This negativity bias means that we feel the pain of a negative comment, or a reproach more powerfully than we feel the joy for a compliment and an accomplishment. All human interactions are biased toward the negative and we tend to notice negative things and later remember them more durably regardless of the subject. Even when there is no negative outcomes, say, because of a positive financial transaction, our brain, guided by the amygdala (a small, almond-shaped structure in the brain that plays a key role in processing emotions, especially fear), will continue to run negative scenarios on what if the transaction was a failure. In other words, we turn a positive into a negative and keep our mind occupied with bad news.
Time to Flip the Script Here’s the deal: we can’t afford to let negativity hold us hostage. It’s time to disrupt that cycle and train our brains to focus on the wins, no matter how small. Here’s how to do it:
- Confront the Overthinking: Stop the spiral. When those negative thoughts creep in, ask yourself: “Is this really true? Does it really matter?” More often than not, it’s just your mind playing tricks helped by the amygdala. Challenge those thoughts and replace them with affirmations of your capabilities.
- Celebrate Every Win: Did you knock out a task? Did you support a teammate? Recognize these moments! Every little victory adds up and celebrating them creates momentum. When you focus on your achievements, you’ll build a stronger, more positive mindset.
- Results Over Rumination: Nothing is more powerful than tangible results. Set daily goals that push you to GSD. When you see what you can accomplish, it’s hard to dwell on negativity. Make it a point to track your progress and write it down; it’s a visual reminder of your capabilities.
- Ditch the Negative Noise: Limit your exposure to negativity. Whether it’s toxic colleagues or relentless news cycles, protect your mental space. Surround yourself with people and content that inspire and uplift you. Life’s too short to entertain negativity.
- Focus on Performance: At the end of the day, results speak louder than words. When you’re producing, you’re less likely to get bogged down by the trivial. Make performance your priority and watch how your perspective shifts.
Make Positivity Your Superpower Transforming your mindset is a radical act. It’s about taking control of your thoughts and refusing to let negativity influence your day. Embrace the power of positivity as you GSD each day. By focusing on results and celebrating your progress, you’ll clear the fog of doubt and self-criticism. So, let go of the BS baggage. Commit to celebrating your daily accomplishments and let positivity lead you forward. And let us also learn from Napoleon Bonaparte who used to limit the amount of information that reached his brain.